Sex toy review: Cal Exotics Red Hot Flare

A while ago, Betty’s Toy Box was kind enough to send me the Cal Exotics Red Hot Flare clitoral stimulator. It has been a while since I have reviewed toys on my site, I had gone off it a bit, but my site has been a bit light on content, so I thought I’d review a toy or two.
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Share our Shit Saturday – 20 October

The last time I did a #SoSS post was before the summer, I can’t believe it! In my defence, I did share a lot of others’ content during the summer when I co-hosted the Summer 100 Blog Challenge, but it’s so nice to be back to reading different blogs and posting some highlights. Continue reading “Share our Shit Saturday – 20 October”

Don’t compare yourself

I’ve been on a bit of a self-imposed break due to personal reasons. While my life is still not nearly as stable as I would like it to be, I am slowly making my way back to writing, as it makes me happy. But being away for a few weeks (months?) has had an impact on my site traffic. And seeing the stats going down when I have worked to hard to get them up in the first place is hard. Continue reading “Don’t compare yourself”

Life’s not all that bad

women have power

The news is full of gloom and doom lately. Here in the UK we are struggling with Brexit; the sheer idiocy of it all and the total lack of leadership from the government. I am not even going to start with the US, we all know the dumpster fire that’s going on there. In all this, it’s very hard to see a silver lining, to feel even a shimmer of joy. I have been stuck in a funk of doom myself for the past few weeks, but today I realised that life’s not all that bad. Continue reading “Life’s not all that bad”

Why is libido so fickle sometimes?


I haven’t had sex in about two months. I know: shocking, right? I am a sex blogger who doesn’t have sex. There used to be a time when I would rather have died than admit I don’t really have sex. Especially since people are quick to point out that sex is super important to a marriage. Continue reading “Why is libido so fickle sometimes?”

“Boys will be boys” is no excuse

TW:sexual assault, rape, Brett Kavanaugh

The world is a dumpster fire right now. I haven’t blogged in a while because my own life has not been great at the moment and I am dealing with some personal issues on top of a house move. But I wanted to come here in my own personal safe space on the Internet and vent some of my frustrations at a particular piece of news. Continue reading ““Boys will be boys” is no excuse”

The end of summer

couple on bench in sunset

I can’t believe it’s September already, how has the summer gone by so fast? Sadly the end of summer also means the end of the Summer 100 Blog Challenge. This year we had 19 participants who actively posted blog posts during the challenge. I always appreciate getting to know new bloggers and this was an excellent way for me to read many new blog posts. Continue reading “The end of summer”

Don’t be so serious!

I have a new banner for my website. I am not that good at taking evocative photos and I am rubbish at drawing things, so I decided to commission two artists to create my website banner and Twitter avatar. I didn’t really provide very detailed instructions and I didn’t proof the banner while the artists were in the process of making it. I wanted to be surprised. Continue reading “Don’t be so serious!”

Don’t touch yourself

“Don’t touch yourself,” Gary said before he left. “Don’t masturbate when I’m away, no matter how horny you get. I will reward you for it when I get home. It will be worth it, I promise.”

Fool that I am, I agreed to it. I didn’t think it would be hard; after all, I don’t masturbate that much and he was only going to be away for a week. How hard could it be? Continue reading “Don’t touch yourself”

Taking up space in a men’s world

I grew up with the belief that men are superior to women. It wasn’t just my parents who taught me that: at every turn in my life, society made sure I knew damn well that I should shut up and listen to men. Things haven’t changed. Especially at work, it is abundantly clear that men receive preferential treatment. Ideas proposed by me are shut down, but when my male colleague proposes the same idea a day or two later (or sometimes in the same meeting), it’s greeted with praise and enthusiasm. Continue reading “Taking up space in a men’s world”