The importance of enthusiastic consent

I wrote a post about consent which was lost in the big website disaster, but it’s such an important topic, I am rewriting it. TW: rape, sexual assault.

Consent
Let’s talk about consent. I am not sure why it is such a difficult concept for people to understand, but it seems that the message still isn’t clear, which is why I am going to talk about it today. Continue reading “The importance of enthusiastic consent”

Sex toy review: The Dodil

Dodil accessories
When I first saw images and tweets about the Dodil coming out, I was really excited. The Dodil is a mouldable dildo which you can shape in any form you want. And when you are sick of the shape, you can just change it up again. It’s such a novel idea and I couldn’t wait to try it out for myself. Luckily for me, the very kind creators of the Dodil agreed to send me a sample in exchange for an honest review. Continue reading “Sex toy review: The Dodil”

The problem with writing erotica: erotic language

Before I started reading and writing erotica, my own erotic language was quite subdued. I referred to my vulva and vagina as “kitten” and only in my hottest moments with hubby would I refer to his penis as “cock”. I had never really given much thought to the specific language I used in an erotic setting. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: erotic language”

Male allies don’t understand the challenges women face

I originally wrote this post three months (or so) ago, prompted by the furor about women-only screening of Wonder Woman. The original post got lost in the great website disaster and I hadn’t planned to rewrite it because I thought it was no longer relevant, but with the whole mess the world is in, I think my points still stand, so I will make them again. Continue reading “Male allies don’t understand the challenges women face”

The problem with writing erotica: tangled limbs

tangled limbs
Writing erotica is a lot of fun. It’s sexy and hot and I love letting my imagination wander. It also comes with its own set of challenges though, and in this blog post I would like to take a look at one of these challenges. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: tangled limbs”

Monogamous sex blogger: contradiction in terms?


When I started my sex blog, I did not know many other sex bloggers. I initially started my blog to have a place to post my erotic short stories and to muse about sex in general. I didn’t even consider myself a sex blogger. It wasn’t until I started doing the Summer 100 Sex Blogger Challenge that I got to know other sex bloggers and I started to get a bit self conscious when I read their blogs. Continue reading “Monogamous sex blogger: contradiction in terms?”