Two months without sex

I love blogging about sex. Whether it’s writing erotica, reviewing sex toys or ranting about the close-mindedness of society when it comes to sex, I love having this blog to express my thoughts. But, as you may have noticed, I haven’t blogged in over two months. That’s because it’s been that long since I’ve felt sexy, or even had sex. Two months without sex makes me feel like a fraud when it comes to sex blogging. (more…)

The more I write, the more self-doubt I have

“And by the way, everything in life is writable about if you have the outgoing guts to do it, and the imagination to improvise. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” ~ Sylvia Plath

When I first started writing novels, about twenty years ago, I wrote just for me. I had a dream to become a published writer, to maybe one day be a full-time writer, but I knew that wouldn’t happen anytime soon. I was just not good enough of a writer yet. Self-doubt held me back from asking feedback on my novels, which I could’ve really learned from. (more…)

Bi erasure prevents me from coming out

I’ve been having a lot of conversations about my sexuality this month. Conversations that centre around bi-erasure as much as biphobia Not surprising, as it’s Pride month. And the more I talk about it, the more I’m sick of hiding who I am. I’ve been thinking a lot about coming out. Not just to my immediate family (they know I’m bisexual already), but also to my friends and my conservative parents and siblings. (more…)

CLOSED – GIVEAWAY to celebrate Surrender in the Library

My latest novel, Surrender in the Library, began its life as a serialised novella on my blog under the title Silence in the Library. You may have read it, but as it was just a first draft, written for myself more than anything, it wasn’t the best quality. I have edited and re-written the novella so the final result – Surrender in the Library – is something I can be very proud of. (more…)

Not speaking up against hurtful behaviour is not an option

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I find this an incredibly difficult blog post to write and I almost wasn’t going to. I hate conflict. I was brought up in a household where we never addressed problematic issues head-on. We swept it under the carpet and forgot it existed. But you know what? When you do that, the issues don’t go away. They fester only to erupt later on. You need to speak out about hurtful behaviour. (more…)