Arousal doesn’t have to be spontaneous

I traveled for business the past few days. As always when I travel and stay in a hotel, I took a few sex toys along. It is rare that I get time to really indulge in a nice long masturbation session, so I take the business trips as an opportunity to do just that. This time around though, when I got to my hotel on Monday night, I didn’t really feel like it. I was tired, my ears were clogged from flying with a cold and all I wanted to do was crawl under the covers and watch some telly. Continue reading “Arousal doesn’t have to be spontaneous”

Confessions from an overworked woman

I never learn. I seem to always sign up for things even though I am already so overworked I can hardly keep up with the things I have on my plate currently. Which is why I am relieved and happy that I was voted out of the Smut Marathon in the second round. Despite the assignments being small in terms of word count, they took up a disproportionate amount of my time and energy. Continue reading “Confessions from an overworked woman”

March is endometriosis awareness month: my story


March is endometriosis awareness month and in particular in the UK, 3-11 March is endometriosis awareness week. In the UK it takes women an average of 7.5 years to receive a diagnosis. With 1.5 million women in the UK suffering from the condition, it’s really important to raise more awareness for this incurable disease. Continue reading “March is endometriosis awareness month: my story”

Mindfulness greatly enhances the sexual experience


Life is busy. I am sure we can all agree on that. There are many things that demand our attention, time and energy. Often there is hardly enough time in the day to have sex and when we do have sex, our minds are still racing. That’s where mindfulness can come in handy. Continue reading “Mindfulness greatly enhances the sexual experience”

Self doubt and anxiety: a match made in hell

I like to think of myself as a confident woman. I don’t really give many fucks about what people think of me. I dye my hair purple and wear Doc Martens boots to work, a very conservative office work environment. But when it comes to my writing and blogging, self doubt overwhelms me. Continue reading “Self doubt and anxiety: a match made in hell”

Fantasies of being gang-banged

I consider myself quite vanilla. I have only had sex with 2 men in my life (consensual, that is), I have been with my husband for 21 years (married for almost 17) and we are both monogamous. I like it that way. I am not telling you all these things because I want a medal or anything. Far from it. NO, I am telling you this to frame what I am going to tell you next. Continue reading “Fantasies of being gang-banged”