“Boys will be boys” is no excuse

TW:sexual assault, rape, Brett Kavanaugh

The world is a dumpster fire right now. I haven’t blogged in a while because my own life has not been great at the moment and I am dealing with some personal issues on top of a house move. But I wanted to come here in my own personal safe space on the Internet and vent some of my frustrations at a particular piece of news. Continue reading ““Boys will be boys” is no excuse”

How not to compliment a woman

business man and woman
It is the year 2018. Women are increasingly vocal about how they want to be treated. The #MeToo movement is still going strong. We see small victories for women in the media, though not as pronounced as we would like it to be. And yet, so many men are still confused over how they should treat women, especially in the workplace. Continue reading “How not to compliment a woman”

Being skinny is not a virtue

I am white, middle class and a comfortable size 12 (UK size). I know that I am incredibly privileged. Likewise my husband and children are white, middle class and skinny. Recently my super skinny youngest son has started to make comments about how he doesn’t want to be fat. He pinches his skin and worries that he should lose weight. I have no idea why he has this obsession, but we keep insisting that he is skinny and shouldn’t worry. (He has since stopped talking, so it could just have been a phase.) Continue reading “Being skinny is not a virtue”

Body hair is not unhygienic

Recently I had a discussion with my 8 year old son about body hair. In particular, myy body hair. I am fairly lax when it comes to shaving, especially in the winter. I don’t really see a reason to keep my legs and armpits completely smooth when no one – apart from my husband – is going to see them anyway. Continue reading “Body hair is not unhygienic”

Women aren’t rivals, but the patriarchy needs us to be

women are not rivals

There are many insidious ways for the patriarchy to keep women in their place. I have written before about misconceptions of the role of women, as well as the way women are described in books. What I want to touch on today is the portrayal of women as rivals. Continue reading “Women aren’t rivals, but the patriarchy needs us to be”

Stop describing female characters based on their level of beauty

On the weekend I read this excellent post on Vulture about how famous female characters were described in their screenplays. It really opened my eyes to the fact that so often women are described based on where they fall on the beauty scale. And this is not limited to screenplays in any way. Continue reading “Stop describing female characters based on their level of beauty”

“Sex is bad, violence is fine” – what kind of message is that?

As a teen I used to watch a lot of movies with my dad and my siblings. Especially Friday or Saturday night we would get a movie (always selected by my dad) and cuddle up to watch. My mother was never a fan of movies, but since the TV was in the living room she was present when we watched. Continue reading ““Sex is bad, violence is fine” – what kind of message is that?”

I want to tackle rape culture, not just sexual assault


The #MeToo movement has really taken off, sparking many discussions about sexual assault and how women are treated in general. Of course in this debate people still (deliberately) misunderstand what the #MeToo movement is about.  Continue reading “I want to tackle rape culture, not just sexual assault”