Recently I had a discussion with my 8 year old son about body hair. In particular, myy body hair. I am fairly lax when it comes to shaving, especially in the winter. I don’t really see a reason to keep my legs and armpits completely smooth when no one – apart from my husband – is going to see them anyway. (more…)
There are many insidious ways for the patriarchy to keep women in their place. I have written before about misconceptions of the role of women, as well as the way women are described in books. What I want to touch on today is the portrayal of women as rivals. (more…)
A few weeks ago my bike was stolen from in front of my house. It was locked with a very good lock, but unfortunately not locked to anything. The thieves came to the house in the night, picked up my bike and left. (more…)
On the weekend I read this excellent post on Vulture about how famous female characters were described in their screenplays. It really opened my eyes to the fact that so often women are described based on where they fall on the beauty scale. And this is not limited to screenplays in any way. (more…)
Generally speaking my husband and I are fairly vanilla when it comes to sex. Sure, we have experimented a bit with bondage, but we often can’t bother to get out the restraints, so when we “do the deed” we often default to the missionary position. (more…)
As a teen I used to watch a lot of movies with my dad and my siblings. Especially Friday or Saturday night we would get a movie (always selected by my dad) and cuddle up to watch. My mother was never a fan of movies, but since the TV was in the living room she was present when we watched. (more…)
The #MeToo movement has really taken off, sparking many discussions about sexual assault and how women are treated in general. Of course in this debate people still (deliberately) misunderstand what the #MeToo movement is about. (more…)
The Golden Globes. Women wearing black in protest against sexual harassment. Men wearing pins in solidarity reading “Time’s Up”. Great signs that the tide is finally turning, right? (more…)
Sexual harassment seems to be a hot topic these days. Allegations of sexual misconduct have been brought out against Harvey Weinstein, Roy Moore and Louis CK, to name a few, and here in the UK we have seen our own spate of sexual harassment claims against members of parliament. As a consequence, Twitter has exploded with women coming forward to tell their own – often harrowing – tales of sexual harassment, particularly under the hashtag #MeToo. (more…)
I am exhausted.
I am exhausted of hearing so many accusations of sexual assault.
I am exhausted of needing to relive the worst moments of my life for the #MeToo campaign just so that men believe this is an epidemic.
I am exhausted of men judging us for having kept silent about sexual harassment for so long.
I am exhausted of men questioning my experience as a woman.
I am exhausted of women questioning my experience as a woman.
I am exhausted. Aren’t you? (more…)