Before I started reading and writing erotica, my own erotic language was quite subdued. I referred to my vulva and vagina as “kitten” and only in my hottest moments with hubby would I refer to his penis as “cock”. I had never really given much thought to the specific language I used in an erotic setting. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: erotic language”
Writing erotica is a lot of fun. It’s sexy and hot and I love letting my imagination wander. It also comes with its own set of challenges though, and in this blog post I would like to take a look at one of these challenges. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: tangled limbs”
I’ve done it again. I started my new erotic novel about a month ago and I have just decided to scrap the whole thing and start over. Over 30,000 words in the bin. It’s painful, but the right thing to do. The reason for this drastic rewrite is that I once again started writing from the wrong angle.
Continue reading “Write fearlessly”
Although I am a big advocate of writers writing whatever they feel like writing (and in whatever form they choose), I think there are a few things writers should avoid. Continue reading “Writers: Don’t Do This”
I grew up in a strict, conservative household. More often than not, other people’s perception of us was more important than the reality. ‘What would people think?’ was a question I was taught to ask often.
Continue reading ““What would people think?””
I am generally a confident woman. I don’t think am a bad mother, I am quite a good wife and I am good at my job. But when it comes to writing, I turn into this quivering mess of self doubt. Despite assurances from my friends and family that my writing is quite good, it doesn’t take much for me to feel that I am absolutely rubbish at writing. Continue reading ““I am absolutely rubbish””
Life gets in the way of our plans and dreams sometimes. It is all very well to set out to become a writer when your life is just chugging along smoothly, but when your life is thrown into turmoil, it gets harder to keep the momentum. Continue reading “Keeping the momentum”
I can’t believe it is the end of January already. Time really does fly when you are having fun. And January has been a lot of fun. I feel I have really accomplished a lot this month. Let me do a quick round up. Continue reading “January Round Up”
Dance like no one is watching.
I love that saying. I try to live by it as well. I love dancing and I do far too little of it. I don’t really go out dancing that often anymore – really only at the office Chrismas party – but when I do, you can’t get me off the dance floor. And I don’t care who watches. It has always been a dream of mne to learn how to pole dance, but I am too old and weak to learn that now. Alas, a missed opportunity. Continue reading “Reflection time – be bold”
I am almost finished with my first full edit of my novel and it feels so good! This is the fifth novel I have written during NaNoWriMo and the first I have edited in earnest. The previous novels have sadly all fallen by the wayside for one reason or other. But I have finally prevailed and I am so thrilled to be sending out my second draft to my alpha readers soon.
So, I wanted to dwell on some lessons I have learnt during editing. Although ‘lessons’ sounds so deep, it’s more a few observations. Continue reading “Reflection time – editing”