I feel inadequate. I feel like somehow I am failing as a sex blogger, an erotic writer, an open minded sex positive individual.
Why though? After all, my website is awesome; I speak freely about sex; I have sex and masturbate a LOT. But here’s the thing: I don’t like the idea of anal sex and I don’t think I will ever try it. And everyone I talk to, all the erotic novels I read, praise anal sex. From both the male and female perspective. So now I feel the odd one out, like there’s something wrong with me.
The problem I have is that anal sex really seems to be the ‘in’ thing at the moment. Or maybe it always was and I am only now more aware of it. But almost every book I read, particularly if it involves a threesome, has one – or more – scenes involving anal sex. And it’s not that I am grossed out by it. It just doesn’t do anything for me, especially not since it is often described as painful. And for me – I don’t want pain when I am having sex. I have had too many years of painful sex (due to medical issues) that I want all my sex to be as pain free as possible. Even if it is ‘good’ pain.
So there you have it. I have gotten to the point now that if there is more than one anal sex scene in a book I either skip over the scenes or put the book away. I read erotic fiction to get turned on. The only story I read involving a MMF threesome which did not involve anal sex was Reclaim My Heart by Marie Carney and I was pleasantly surprised by it.
I still feel like the odd one out, and that may continue to be the case. But hey, you do your thing, I do mine and we’ll all be happy, right?
This post is part of the Summer 100 Sex Blogger Challenge. Check out some of the other participants:
Taryn has a hilarious – and slightly scary – post on her blog about the time she lost something in her vagina. She took it quite well, I would have panicked!
Juliet writes about her busy life with all the men in her life. Some guaranteed drama queens and some soft sweethearts.