Flaunt that ass!

CW: body image

The Wicked Wednesday prompt for this week is Flaunt. I wasn’t going to write anything for this, as I didn’t think I had anything to flaunt. However, May More encouraged me to take a picture of myself in lingerie for Lingerie Is For Everyone and after I had taken a few pictures, I realised I did have something to flaunt. I could flaunt my ass!

I have a complicated relationship with my body. When I was in my twenties, I looked stunning. Skinny, beautiful shape, and even though my breasts were on the smaller side, I loved my body. Over time, though, my body started to change. Age, illness, children and menopause all conspired to change my body from a fit young woman to an ageing one. I put on weight, had to buy clothes a larger size and started to feel horrible about it all.

Nowadays, I feel very insecure about my body. Where I used to flaunt it, I now try to hide it. Even though my husband goes crazy (in a good way!) if I wear tight and/or revealing clothes, I have a hard time feeling good in them. I see my soft belly and big ass and cringe that this is now my body. I feel like I have let myself go. That if I only worked out more, ate healthier, drank less alcohol (haha!) I would look better, be hotter.

This negative self-image isn’t helped when I see other sex bloggers post pictures of themselves nude or in beautiful lingerie. The afore-mentioned May is gorgeous and super fit. Nikki is one of the most beautiful women I know and I drool over her sexy pictures. Molly takes the most amazing pictures of herself and I’m always in awe of how beautiful she is. The list goes on. Whenever I see these, and many more, women post their pictures on Twitter, or on their blogs, I feel like I should just crawl underneath the covers and hide. No one wants to see my hideous body, marked with cellulite, scars and stretch marks.

However, these insecurities are all bullshit. I know it. I knew it the other day when my friend Tanya asked on Twitter if anyone had a favourite porn star. I don’t watch porn enough to have a favourite star, but I do have a favourite type. I like seeing women who are in their forties (like me) with thick thighs and large boobs and soft tummies. I prefer them over any other porn stars. Likewise when I see sex bloggers post pictures of themselves. I gravitate more towards those whose bodies are softer and rounder. I LOVE women like that.

Part of the issue is that I am still conditioned to think that “the world” or men, in general, like women who adhere to society’s standard of beauty. Skinny, smooth skin, big boobs. That’s not something I can offer. And so I don’t think my pictures have any place on my blog, or on Twitter, despite the positive feedback I receive every time I post sexy selfies.

Social conditioning is insidious. A few months ago I tried to break my own social conditioning by taking nude and semi-nude selfies. With each picture I took, my self-esteem rose. What I saw on my camera (even before I touched up my pictures) was a sexy, confident woman who loved to flaunt her body. It was an entirely different woman from how I felt. Seeing myself in a different light and from different angles (let’s face it: when else can you see your ass that well?) made me realise that I am not hideous. I’m sexy, even if my skin isn’t perfectly smooth. Even if I have rolls when I sit down. Even if my thighs touch when I walk.

I owe a huge thank-you to May who encouraged me to take pictures for this week’s Lingerie Is For Everyone. Taking these pictures reminded me again that I have a gorgeous body and a great ass. An ass that I love to flaunt. I don’t generally like pictures of myself on my blog, so I may not become a regular at Lingerie Is For Everyone, but I will definitely keep taking sexy selfies. It’s good for my self-esteem and it reminds me that despite all I have been through, my body is gorgeous and sexy.

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The Insatiable Jane Travers

The Insatiable Jane Travers cover
Would you choose a stable marriage over a lifetime of excitement? What if you could have it both?

It’s the roaring twenties.

Naive virgin Jane Travers arrives at her friend’s country home hoping to spend a summer away from her strict aunt and uncle in New York. She’s been promised wild parties and endless excitement, but she soon finds herself in over her head. With the help of the sexy singer Lillian Smith, and her old flame Sidney Fitzroy, Jane starts to explore her sexuality, blossoming from an innocent virgin to an insatiable vixen.

With Sidney and Lillian both satisfying her deepest desires, Jane cannot imagine ever going back to her aunt and uncle’s restrictive household. But without an income of her own, her only escape is marriage. Sidney can offer her a stable life as a married woman, but with Lillian, she’d have a lifetime of excitement.

How can she choose when her heart—and body—belongs to both of them?

5 Replies to “Flaunt that ass!”

  1. You absolutely DO have a great body, and I am happy that you have taken May’s advice to take a picture. Yay for the encouragement and the realization that you are gorgeous!

    Rebel xox

  2. Isabelle you have a lovely tush, but I totally understand the difficulty and envy you describe. There are many times when I have contemplated not posting images of myself for the reasons you give, and not sharing with Sinful Sunday or Lingerie is for Everyone, because I feel so un-sexy. In the end I have taken part to not only challenge my own perception, as it is lovely to recieve the support and compliments from other people taking part, but also to encourage other people that being slim, toned and perky is not the only way to be sexy.

    Well done for taking part, I hope you continue to do so.

    Sweetgirl x

    1. Thanks, Sweetgirl. You’re right: taking part in Lingerie is for Everyone does show that lingerie is indeed for everyone, not only people who are slim and toned. And everyone is always very positive and encouraging, so that’s a good reason to participate too.

  3. You have a beautiful body because of all those things you perceive as fault. It’s hard, it really is, loving your own body. I struggle still,but oh, it’s worth the effort. I hope you get more and more confidence and flaunt your gorgeous self all the more! You’re beautiful exactly the way you are.

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