Masturbating together: not for everyone?

Masturbation Month has come to an end and I have to say, I didn’t do too bad this time around. Sure, I didn’t masturbate every day, but I still masturbated more than I usually do, so that is a win for me. I have to say that I also traveled during this time, which I always use as a good excuse to masturbate like crazy.

One thing hubby and I tried during Masturbation Month was masturbating together. We had never done this before, although I had masturbated in front of him many times. I used to feel awkward about that, and felt exactly how Meg describes it in her blog post Freedom of Masturbation. But I soon overcame this awkwardness, maybe also because hubby always insisted on “helping me out”. So, really, was it masturbating in front of him?

But masturbating together is something different. Hubby is certainly less open with his sexuality than me, especially when it comes to wanking off. Up until recently, he was embarassed to admit that he does masturbate occassionally; my increased openness in when and how I masturbate has emboldened him a bit more. Since I had a penis sleeve I really needed to get reviewed, I coaxed him into trying it out in front of me. To alleviate the pressure on him, I agreed to masturbate with him.

Seeing my hubby give himself pleasure really got me off. I loved watching him stroke himself and get himself off using both the sleeve and his hands. I admit that I helped him out a little bit as well, but just watching him was incredibly hot. And that is coming from a woman who does not particularly like the look of penises.

Hubby liked me being turned on by his masturbating as well, and as I kicked my own toy into a higher gear, this seemed to arouse him even further. I am sure that eventually we would have been able to bring our mutual wank session to a satisfying conclusion, but I became impatient. Or maybe a bit jealous of the sex toy he was pumping so vigorously? Although it’s silly to be jealous of an inanimate object, of course.

In the end, we ended up having sex together. I wouldn’t say that the whole experience was a waste. I did really like watching him satisfy himself with the help of the sleeve. I loved looking at his face as he became more and more aroused. But I still prefer doing sexy stuff together – to each other.

There are benefits to masturbating together. I agre with the points in that article, but I would also pose that it is not for me. And that is fine. Not all sex acts need to be embraced with enthusiasm by everyone. We are all individuals and we are entitled to our own likes and dislikes. Hubby liked the experience, but also agreed with me that ending the night having sex together was a better way to go.

I think it is fun to try different things together. And it is also interesting to see that acts which seem so hot in your mind might turn out quite differently in real life. Masturbating together always seemed like the epitome of hotness to me, but in the end it served more as an appetiser than the main course. For me it’s a great way to get very aroused, but if mutual masturbation was all that was on the menu, I would be a tad disappointed.

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