I love being a sex blogger. I haven’t even been doing it for that long and I have met so many awesome women who are in the same boat as me. The sex blogging community is far friendlier and less intimidating than I thought it would be. That has become even more apparent since my participation in Victoria’s Summer 100 sex blogger challenge.
As the title says, I have found my journey so far extremely liberating. I have never felt more at ease with people in my life than with sex bloggers. It is almost as if I have finally found my niche. Which may be the case. It’s just that sex bloggers – and sex positive people in general – are really non-judgmental, accepting and lovely.
Speaking of non-judgmental, why is it that so many people still feel that they have the right to judge someone for how much they like sex? Part of the reason I try to stay as anonymous as possible on the internet is not that I am ashamed of being a sex blogger, but because I have some very judgmental people in my life who would wholly disapprove of this blog and certain revelations I make here (and make my life very difficult as a result). Now, I know I need to not give f*ck, but I hate confrontation so I try to avoid it as much as possible. If someone “outed” me – and why would you do that? – so be it, but I have young children and I wouldn’t be able to be as frank and open as I am if I knew they could easily find out what their mum writes about on this blog.
Having said that, I do celebrate my sexuality. And when I sense that friends (and family members) are also sex positive, I do tell them what I blog about. I don’t hide away, I merely don’t advertise it to all and sundry. And I am getting bolder and braver. I wouldn’t be surprised if in a few months I put a picture of myself on this blog, consequences be damned. But until that time I am secure in the knowledge that I have found my tribe here – and that I am not judged for it. Thank you!
This post is part of the Summer 100 Sex Blogger Challenge. Check out some of the other participants below:
And on the theme of people being judgmental, Bella Rose has a great post about people’s misconceptions about polyamorous relationships triggered by a non-informed video by Mayim Bialik.
And speaking of polyamory, Take Back Your Sex has a very interesting post about that.