An evening of kink and bondage with the Scarlet Ladies

I love being a member of the Scarlet Ladies. As I don’t live in London, I am an out of town member and I sadly don’t get to go as often as I want. When I do go, though, it’s like a balm for my soul. It’s so great to be among other women who are open about sex.

I managed to go to the Scarlet Ladies last Tuesday. It was a sweltering evening, England was playing some game or other in the World Cup and I made my way up the stairs at 23 Paul Street to get a primer in Kink and Bondage. Hubby and I are not very experienced at bondage at all, and we want to try a bit more. I figured that an evening led by Renee from Sh! Womenstore would be a good place to start.

I admit I was a bit nervous, so I was happy to hear that the drinks would be free. I was early, so I chatted a bit with some other members and Renee herself, who had come early to set up. Renee is super sweet and so easy-going, I immediately felt at ease with her. So much so that I volunteered to help her out with her demonstrations. (And here I had just assured hubby that the evening would not be hands on at all!)

A glass of rose made me feel even more comfortable and soon I was seated in front of a captive audience, ready to be bound up. While I was looking forward to get a bit more hands-on experience of being tied up and have things done to me, my nerves returned when Renee started talking about safe words. Surely it wouldn’t come to that, I hoped.

Renee started with a general talk about kink, BDSM and bondage and the best way to start the conversation around kink in the bedroom. It was all very logical, but at the same time it was a great reminder to me that if hubby and I wanted to take our kink and bondage further, we will need to have a good conversation around what we want and what we both are comfortable with. Preferably one that takes place outside the bedroom when we are both sober.

After Renee’s introduction, it was time for the practical part of the evening, the part I had volunteered for. I took place on the stool and Renee showed me (and the other volunteers) the bondage tape we would be tied up with. It’s actually really effective tape and very easy to use, much better than the awkward cuffs hubby and I have been using. It sticks to itself, but is easy to unwrap and you can reuse it. I had my hands tied behind my back, and the binding around my wrists didn’t hurt at all. You can also use rope to tie each other up, and Renee did have some examples of rope as well.

Once we were bound, we had to be blindfolded. I had mixed feelings about the blindfold. On one hand, it was nice not to have to see everyone staring at me. I also liked how it heightened my senses and kept everything a surprise. On the other hand, it really forced me to trust Renee and the other volunteer, which was a bit daunting at first. I didn’t find the blindfold that comfortable and it felt like it would slip off. I much prefer just a tie or scarf.

Once I was blindfolded, the real fun began. Renee had the dominant volunteer touch, tickle and stroke us submissives with all sorts of implements, from feathers to finger vibrators to a plain old kitchen fork. It was up to us to guess what was touching us. I found this part a lot of fun, although I couldn’t for the life of me guess the fork. Renee also let us experience a bit of temperature play, which hubby and I had done a long time ago.

At last I was released from my bondage. While my eyes slowly adjusted to the light again, the audience applauded us and we were allowed to take our seats again. I think it definitely deserved my second glass of wine! Renee passed all the things around that she had used on us, so everyone could have a try at seeing how it felt. It was nice to see the different objects that had been used on me.

Renee then demonstrated a spanking with a nice crop on a different volunteer. I am not into spanking (yet), so I just sat back and enjoyed the demonstration. Renee also talked about other aspects of kink, such as power play and more intense BDSM, which she didn’t get into more (as this was just an introduction).

I really enjoyed the evening and not only because I was able to experience some bondage myself. But I have to admit that taking part in the practical aspect of the evening has reaffirmed that I do really like a bit of kink and bondage. And it doesn’t have to be complicated. It also doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual. I remained fully clothed during the demonstration and still had a lot of fun. Hubby and I don’t do kink and bondage a lot, but when we do, it’s always in conjunction with sex. But maybe we can do it some evening without necessarily it leading to us having sex, because the whole experience of being blindfolded and being stroked and tickled is amazing in itself.

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