My blog is a little over four years old. I’m amazed I’ve stuck it out for so long, to be honest. Before I had this blog, I had started a few others, but never really stuck with it. I always abandoned it after a few months, discouraged by the lack of readers. Thanks to the amazing community, I was able to increase my readership to over 1000 posts read a month. It’s been a great ride. (more…)
Category: Personal
Fuck off, 2020
2020 was awful. I wasn’t even going to do a write-up of this year, but seeing as I haven’t blogged a lot lately, I thought this would be a good way to add one more blog post to the year. Also, I can tie this in with Little Switch Bitch’s Quote Quest of the week, so killing two birds with one stone.
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Welcome back, libido!
It’s been a hard couple of months. As I wrote a while back, I went without sex for quite a while because of various health issues, which also really stalled my blogging. Not feeling sexy is really not good when you’re a sex blogger. I was eagerly awaiting the return of my libido. (more…)
Two months without sex
I love blogging about sex. Whether it’s writing erotica, reviewing sex toys or ranting about the close-mindedness of society when it comes to sex, I love having this blog to express my thoughts. But, as you may have noticed, I haven’t blogged in over two months. That’s because it’s been that long since I’ve felt sexy, or even had sex. Two months without sex makes me feel like a fraud when it comes to sex blogging. (more…)
Shaving my pussy doesn’t make me less of a feminist
I’m a feminist. If you have spent even a fraction of time on my blog, you know this already. A few years ago, I mentioned to my husband that I’m a feminist and he expressed his disbelief. “No, you’re not. You don’t hate men, and you shave.” As if that is the criteria for being a feminist. (more…)
The more I write, the more self-doubt I have
“And by the way, everything in life is writable about if you have the outgoing guts to do it, and the imagination to improvise. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” ~ Sylvia Plath
When I first started writing novels, about twenty years ago, I wrote just for me. I had a dream to become a published writer, to maybe one day be a full-time writer, but I knew that wouldn’t happen anytime soon. I was just not good enough of a writer yet. Self-doubt held me back from asking feedback on my novels, which I could’ve really learned from. (more…)
Bi erasure prevents me from coming out
I’ve been having a lot of conversations about my sexuality this month. Conversations that centre around bi-erasure as much as biphobia Not surprising, as it’s Pride month. And the more I talk about it, the more I’m sick of hiding who I am. I’ve been thinking a lot about coming out. Not just to my immediate family (they know I’m bisexual already), but also to my friends and my conservative parents and siblings. (more…)
LGBTQ sex-ed would’ve saved me years of anguish
I wish I could go back in time. I would find my twenty-something-year-old self and tell her not to worry so much. I’d tell her that she’s bisexual and that it’s fine. I wish I could give her the LGBTQ sex-ed I should’ve had in high school. (more…)
CLOSED – GIVEAWAY to celebrate Surrender in the Library
My latest novel, Surrender in the Library, began its life as a serialised novella on my blog under the title Silence in the Library. You may have read it, but as it was just a first draft, written for myself more than anything, it wasn’t the best quality. I have edited and re-written the novella so the final result – Surrender in the Library – is something I can be very proud of. (more…)
Writing during times of chaos
We live in interesting times. I’ve actually not blogged for the better part of a month (or more, actually) as I’ve been busy trying to write a novel. But with the chaos we find ourselves in these days, I’ve decided to write more. Writing is my mental health coping strategy, so the more I do, the better I’ll feel. Or so I hope, at least. (more…)