Sexual harassment seems to be a hot topic these days. Allegations of sexual misconduct have been brought out against Harvey Weinstein, Roy Moore and Louis CK, to name a few, and here in the UK we have seen our own spate of sexual harassment claims against members of parliament. As a consequence, Twitter has exploded …
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I am exhausted. I am exhausted of hearing so many accusations of sexual assault. I am exhausted of needing to relive the worst moments of my life for the #MeToo campaign just so that men believe this is an epidemic. I am exhausted of men judging us for having kept silent about sexual harassment for …
It seems like I talk about masturbation a lot, both here and on Twitter. But I think masturbation is important, for a number of reasons. Obviously, as a sex blogger I am sometimes required to masturbate when I test out sex toys to review (oh, the hardship!). As I said in an earlier post, I …
Are you having sex? Do you enjoy it? Are you getting off? Then great, you are doing it right. It’s such a simple statement, but why, then, is it so hard to believe? I am 40 years old and have been sexually active for 20 years. I blog about sex and have done more masturbating …
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A while ago I was sat on the couch, reading a book, minding my own business. My 8 year old son sat next to me, poked me in the stomach and said, ‘You need to lose weight, you are fat.’ I was aghast. Aside from the fact that, while I have gained a bit more …
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Today I want to talk about slut shaming. There is so much I would like to say on the subject that it is going to be difficult to distill it down into a single blog post, but I will try anyhow.
I recently became involved in the #iTalkSex campaign run by the Scarlet Ladies. They hosted a kick off evening with a life feed on Twitter on 15 September where women shared their stories about why they talk sex. I posted a few comments, but wanted to say a lot more on the subject, so here …
I love wearing high heels. Not so much when I am out and about shopping, for example, or walking home, but when I am in the office or the rare occasion I am going out, I like to put on a high, preferably strappy, heel. I love the way heels give me confidence and I …
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I wrote a post about consent which was lost in the big website disaster, but it’s such an important topic, I am rewriting it. TW: rape, sexual assault. Let’s talk about consent. I am not sure why it is such a difficult concept for people to understand, but it seems that the message still isn’t …
I originally wrote this post three months (or so) ago, prompted by the furor about women-only screening of Wonder Woman. The original post got lost in the great website disaster and I hadn’t planned to rewrite it because I thought it was no longer relevant, but with the whole mess the world is in, I …
Male allies don’t understand the challenges women face Read More »