If you are a regular reader of my blog, it won’t come as a surprise when I say that I love masturbating. I used to do it covertly, waiting until hubby was away and even then I would do it under the covers. Since becoming more sex positive, I have become more open about my masturbation, something that doesn’t bother hubby at all. I am not as bold as Krystle though and I don’t masturbate next to my sleeping husband, although come to think of it, I have done that once or twice. But I’d be horrified if he woke up and caught me.
This week is still part of round 1 of the Summer 100 challenge and the theme is still self care, self love, masturbation and simlar topics. I realised I haven’t written about this topic much last week, and seeing as it is Masturbation Monday, I thought it would be fun to explore the various masturbation techniques I use.
Of course now that I have sex toys, I masturbate completely differently from a few years ago. Back then, my fingers used to be my best friend. I always favoured my clit and G-spot, more my G-spot than my clit, but I think that had more to do with the fact that my fingers alone couldn’t stimulate my clit enough.
Now that I have sex toys, I rarely use my fingers alone for masturbating. I can still make myself come using my fingers, but it’s so much more fun with sex toys. And I am sure I am not alone in having a preference for certain sex toys during my solo session. I definitey favour my clitoral bullets, like the Ann Summers Climax Rechargeable Power Bullet (yes, I know, Ann Summers, but I really do love this thing) or the We Vibe Tango as long as the battery doesn’t give me trouble. Another favourite is the Satisfyer 4 Couples, which, while marketed as a couples’ toy, is great for solo play. There are other toys that I sometimes play with, but these three are definitely my favourite.
When I am at home, I don’t really get a lot of chances to play solo. I mostly take care of things in the shower, where my Ann Summers bullet is my best friend. It’s reliable, waterproof, has a great battery life and never fails to make me come. Sometimes it takes a bit longer than others (I really need to get my head in the game), but it always produces results. My power bullet lives in my bathroom drawer.
When I am travelling for work, I tend to take my Satisfyer and either my glass dildo or another insertable toy. I am not too fond of penetration, but I do like my G-spot stimulated. I am still looking for the perfect G-spot toy. So far nothing has really rocked my socks off.
I always masturbate when I stay in a hotel, no matter my mood or how I feel. I find it’s a waste of a good hotel room not to. If I am not aroused, I take time to get in the mood. In all fairness though, what else am I going to do in a hotel room by myself? I don’t really watch TV and I can read at home.
My masturbation techninque is different in a hotel than at home. Which makes sense: I don’t have to worry about the kids distrurbing me or about making too much noise. I can take however long I like and do whatever I want. I don’t really have a routine, but I do make sure I have at least 3 orgasms with different toys. I love really making the time, and I love pushing myself to the edge. Having loads of orgasms can be exhausting, but it’s always a bit of a challenge for me to see how many I can give myself.
Of course masturbation is not only about pleasure and giving yourself orgasms. I think it is important to connect with my body, find out what I like and what I don’t like and check in with myself. Hotel rooms are great for full length mirrors (something I don’t have at home), so I like seeing myself in the mirror. My body isn’t as tight and skinny as it used to be, but watching myself in the mirror gives me great satisfaction sometimes. (Sometimes I just can’t stand the sight of myself though.)
So what are your masturbation techniques? Do you just reach for the same toy every time or do you mix it up? And if you usually use sex toys, do you sometimes just use your fingers as well?
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I liked this, very informative and it has made me think about my habits, which are similar to yours, but I do often use my fingers when I’m having a sneaky one next to my sleeping husband! (and unlike Krystle I wouldn’t want him to wake and catch me either …. because I have a hall pass to wake him if I feel horny and he’d be disappointed that I didn’t!!)
Same, hubby would be really disappointed if I went ahead without giving him the chance to join in. But sometimes I’m just too lazy for sex and just want a quick wank…
Another wonderful post from you Isabelle. I particularly enjoyed the part where you described your stays in hotels. It put me in mind of those Edward Hopper paintings depicting women alone in hotel bedrooms. It seems to me there is so much more to female masturbation than the manly type I get up to. My toy box is empty so it is strictly a la main for me.
I’m wondering if it is just easier for men to orgasm by using their hands. I find I need stronger clitoral stimulation than my hands can provide, hence the toys.
I haven’t thought about masturbation or my techniques in a long time. I think I’ve spent too long reviewing sex toys because it’s because a bit rote. Turn toy on, apply to clit, move on. But maybe it’s time to do a bit of self-exploration…in the name of science and research, of course, lol.
Self-exploration is always good! I find I do get stuck in a pattern, but then I use my business visits as opportunities to really go to town, so to speak, and try different things.
My go to is my finger and a glass dildo. I really penetration but need clit stimulation to orgasm so that is the perfect combination for me. And you mentioned mirrors, I love watching myself!
Mollyx
Ooh, glass dildo, definitely my favourite kind of dildo. Especially when warmed under the hot tap.