Full disclosure: does your partner need to know everything about you?

Couple relaxing with pug

Do you tell your partner everything? I often hear people say, “My partner and I have no secrets from each other.” That is, of course, a laudable sentiment, but this same sentiment can be used as an abusive tactic. We need to be clear about what we mean by saying this. Continue reading “Full disclosure: does your partner need to know everything about you?”

Let’s not stop talking about sex

women have power

“You talk about sex as if it is something normal.”

My sister said this to me, a while ago, after we had spent an evening talking about sex. As if it is something normal. I knew what she meant, of course. In our family, when we grew up, sex wasn’t talked about. It was something you did when you were married, in order to have children, nothing else. Continue reading “Let’s not stop talking about sex”

69 is not my magic number

69 road sign

The more I become sexually aware, and the more I talk about sex with other women, the more I realise there is no “acceptable standard” of sex. I know it’s a bit weird to be saying this in 2018, and at the age of 40(ish), but until I started blogging about sex about a year and a half ago, I never really talked to anyone about sex. And if you don’t talk about sex, you only have your own experience to go on. That, and books/porn, which is not a good guide. Continue reading “69 is not my magic number”

Losing my virginity wasn’t special

I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. I was raised in a conservative Christian household and as such I was taught not to have sex before marriage. My virginity was a “gift” I should save for my husband. It would be a very special occasion for us both when I finally lost my virginity. No one ever mentioned my future husband’s virginity or even whether he would be a virgin. And sex education was, of course, pretty much non-existent.
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How not to compliment a woman

business man and woman
It is the year 2018. Women are increasingly vocal about how they want to be treated. The #MeToo movement is still going strong. We see small victories for women in the media, though not as pronounced as we would like it to be. And yet, so many men are still confused over how they should treat women, especially in the workplace. Continue reading “How not to compliment a woman”

Don’t lose your writer’s voice

I am my own worst critic. Whenever I write a story, or work on my novel, I cannot shut up that voice inside that tells me that I suck. That I have no business writing ficiton at all and that I should just quit. Which is one of the reasons why writing my novel is going SO slowly. I should just sit down and get it done, but my brain won’t stop telling me I am rubbish and might as well give up erotica. Continue reading “Don’t lose your writer’s voice”

I have many masturbation techniques

If you are a regular reader of my blog, it won’t come as a surprise when I say that I love masturbating. I used to do it covertly, waiting until hubby was away and even then I would do it under the covers. Since becoming more sex positive, I have become more open about my masturbation, something that doesn’t bother hubby at all. I am not as bold as Krystle though and I don’t masturbate next to my sleeping husband, although come to think of it, I have done that once or twice. But I’d be horrified if he woke up and caught me. Continue reading “I have many masturbation techniques”

Strong women need hugs too

woman in bed

TW: mental health, suicide

I am a strong, capable, organised woman. Nothing really fazes me. I keep my family organised, I handle all the finances, I plan the holidays and calm hubby down when he stresses out about things. I work fulltime, but also find time to blog regularly and write short stories and novels. I help my kids with their homework and organise their birthday parties. I remember my extended family’s birthdays and I send cards to friends when they need a pick-me-up. I am the last person you need to worry about regarding mental health. Continue reading “Strong women need hugs too”

Summer 100: halfway through round 1

Summer 100 Blog Challenge

We’re halfway through round 1, so I though I’d make a list of all the qualifying blog posts so far. Just as a remjnder: blog posts qualify if they are 500+ words long, have 2 or more images and link to 2 or more patricipants of the Summer 100 blog challenge! If you think I have missed a qualifying blog post, please let me know and I will update the list. Continue reading “Summer 100: halfway through round 1”