“You talk about sex as if it is something normal.”

My sister said this to me, a while ago, after we had spent an evening talking about sex. As if it is something normal. I knew what she meant, of course. In our family, when we grew up, sex wasn’t talked about. It was something you did when you were married, in order to have children, nothing else. Continue reading “Let’s not stop talking about sex”

The more I become sexually aware, and the more I talk about sex with other women, the more I realise there is no “acceptable standard” of sex. I know it’s a bit weird to be saying this in 2018, and at the age of 40(ish), but until I started blogging about sex about a year and a half ago, I never really talked to anyone about sex. And if you don’t talk about sex, you only have your own experience to go on. That, and books/porn, which is not a good guide. Continue reading “69 is not my magic number”

I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. I was raised in a conservative Christian household and as such I was taught not to have sex before marriage. My virginity was a “gift” I should save for my husband. It would be a very special occasion for us both when I finally lost my virginity. No one ever mentioned my future husband’s virginity or even whether he would be a virgin. And sex education was, of course, pretty much non-existent.
Continue reading “Losing my virginity wasn’t special”