An evening of kink and bondage with the Scarlet Ladies

hands tied up

I love being a member of the Scarlet Ladies. As I don’t live in London, I am an out of town member and I sadly don’t get to go as often as I want. When I do go, though, it’s like a balm for my soul. It’s so great to be among other women who are open about sex. Continue reading “An evening of kink and bondage with the Scarlet Ladies”

It takes two to tango: relationships take work

couple on bench in sunset

I have been with my husband for 21 years now. We have been married for 17 years. We have a stricltly monogamous relationship, which works very well for us. Since the theme for the third round of the Summer 100 Sex Blogger Challenge is about relationships, I thought I’d share some tips as to how we manage to still make our relationship work. Continue reading “It takes two to tango: relationships take work”

Full disclosure: does your partner need to know everything about you?

Couple relaxing with pug

Do you tell your partner everything? I often hear people say, “My partner and I have no secrets from each other.” That is, of course, a laudable sentiment, but this same sentiment can be used as an abusive tactic. We need to be clear about what we mean by saying this. Continue reading “Full disclosure: does your partner need to know everything about you?”

Let’s not stop talking about sex

women have power

“You talk about sex as if it is something normal.”

My sister said this to me, a while ago, after we had spent an evening talking about sex. As if it is something normal. I knew what she meant, of course. In our family, when we grew up, sex wasn’t talked about. It was something you did when you were married, in order to have children, nothing else. Continue reading “Let’s not stop talking about sex”

69 is not my magic number

69 road sign

The more I become sexually aware, and the more I talk about sex with other women, the more I realise there is no “acceptable standard” of sex. I know it’s a bit weird to be saying this in 2018, and at the age of 40(ish), but until I started blogging about sex about a year and a half ago, I never really talked to anyone about sex. And if you don’t talk about sex, you only have your own experience to go on. That, and books/porn, which is not a good guide. Continue reading “69 is not my magic number”

Losing my virginity wasn’t special

I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. I was raised in a conservative Christian household and as such I was taught not to have sex before marriage. My virginity was a “gift” I should save for my husband. It would be a very special occasion for us both when I finally lost my virginity. No one ever mentioned my future husband’s virginity or even whether he would be a virgin. And sex education was, of course, pretty much non-existent.
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How not to compliment a woman

business man and woman
It is the year 2018. Women are increasingly vocal about how they want to be treated. The #MeToo movement is still going strong. We see small victories for women in the media, though not as pronounced as we would like it to be. And yet, so many men are still confused over how they should treat women, especially in the workplace. Continue reading “How not to compliment a woman”

Don’t lose your writer’s voice

I am my own worst critic. Whenever I write a story, or work on my novel, I cannot shut up that voice inside that tells me that I suck. That I have no business writing ficiton at all and that I should just quit. Which is one of the reasons why writing my novel is going SO slowly. I should just sit down and get it done, but my brain won’t stop telling me I am rubbish and might as well give up erotica. Continue reading “Don’t lose your writer’s voice”

I have many masturbation techniques

If you are a regular reader of my blog, it won’t come as a surprise when I say that I love masturbating. I used to do it covertly, waiting until hubby was away and even then I would do it under the covers. Since becoming more sex positive, I have become more open about my masturbation, something that doesn’t bother hubby at all. I am not as bold as Krystle though and I don’t masturbate next to my sleeping husband, although come to think of it, I have done that once or twice. But I’d be horrified if he woke up and caught me. Continue reading “I have many masturbation techniques”