Share our Shit Saturday, the “I am Busy” Edition

It’s the end of the week again! It’s been such a busy week for me, with travel to the Netherlands to see family and for work and lots of other work and non-work related items going on. Next week is going to be even worse. I can’t seem to shake this tiredness and I really want to feel the joy of blogging again. I am trying to blog more, as I find that the more I blog, the more I enjoy it, and I also need to not worry too much about what other people think. (more…)

Share our Shit Saturday – It’s December!

It is Saturday again, how fast did this week go? And with Saturday it is time for another #SoSS post. If you are new to #SoSS, this is a way in which we try to combat the silencing of sex bloggers and sex workers on the Internet, in particular on social media, by sharing each other’s posts on our blogs and widening our reach. Hopefully you find something of interest here, but do also check out other bloggers’ #SoSS posts by checking the hashtag on Twitter. (more…)

I am an exhausted feminist

I am exhausted.
I am exhausted of hearing so many accusations of sexual assault.
I am exhausted of needing to relive the worst moments of my life for the #MeToo campaign just so that men believe this is an epidemic.
I am exhausted of men judging us for having kept silent about sexual harassment for so long.
I am exhausted of men questioning my experience as a woman.
I am exhausted of women questioning my experience as a woman.
I am exhausted. Aren’t you? (more…)

The way you are having sex is unique, amazing and perfect


Are you having sex? Do you enjoy it? Are you getting off? Then great, you are doing it right.

It’s such a simple statement, but why, then, is it so hard to believe? I am 40 years old and have been sexually active for 20 years. I blog about sex and have done more masturbating in the last year than I have all my life combined. But I often still feel like I am “doing it wrong.” (more…)

Elust 100

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Welcome to Elust 100

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #101 Start with the rules, come back December 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! (more…)

Successful monogamy: is that possible?

Monogamy has been the status quo for a very long time and it is refreshing to see alternatives becoming more acceptable. But I feel that monogamy has gotten a bad name and as a sex blogger, I sometimes feel a bit silly for being monogamous. But my husband and I have been exclusive for 20 years (married for 16) and I don’t recognise our relationship in the staid picture of monogamy that the media usually portrays. (more…)