Not everything women do is for the benefit of men


I love wearing high heels. Not so much when I am out and about shopping, for example, or walking home, but when I am in the office or the rare occasion I am going out, I like to put on a high, preferably strappy, heel. I love the way heels give me confidence and I love how much taller I am in them (I am a shorty without heels). My manager, who prefers practical, low heeled shoes, once commented on my choice of footwear.
‘I would never wear heels like that in the office,’ she said. ‘There is just no one at work I feel the need to impress.’ Continue reading “Not everything women do is for the benefit of men”

Sex toy review: Satisfyer Pro Penguin

Satisfyer Pro Penguin in box
I always feel bad when I have to write a negative review of a sex toy. Especially if it is a universally loved sex toy which has been kindly sent to me by the company itself. In the interest of full disclosure, the company contacted me for a review, I didn’t ask for the toy. Nevertheless, here is my review of the Satisfyer Pro Penguin. Continue reading “Sex toy review: Satisfyer Pro Penguin”

The importance of enthusiastic consent

I wrote a post about consent which was lost in the big website disaster, but it’s such an important topic, I am rewriting it. TW: rape, sexual assault.

Consent
Let’s talk about consent. I am not sure why it is such a difficult concept for people to understand, but it seems that the message still isn’t clear, which is why I am going to talk about it today. Continue reading “The importance of enthusiastic consent”

Sex toy review: The Dodil

Dodil accessories
When I first saw images and tweets about the Dodil coming out, I was really excited. The Dodil is a mouldable dildo which you can shape in any form you want. And when you are sick of the shape, you can just change it up again. It’s such a novel idea and I couldn’t wait to try it out for myself. Luckily for me, the very kind creators of the Dodil agreed to send me a sample in exchange for an honest review. Continue reading “Sex toy review: The Dodil”

The problem with writing erotica: erotic language

Before I started reading and writing erotica, my own erotic language was quite subdued. I referred to my vulva and vagina as “kitten” and only in my hottest moments with hubby would I refer to his penis as “cock”. I had never really given much thought to the specific language I used in an erotic setting. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: erotic language”

Male allies don’t understand the challenges women face

I originally wrote this post three months (or so) ago, prompted by the furor about women-only screening of Wonder Woman. The original post got lost in the great website disaster and I hadn’t planned to rewrite it because I thought it was no longer relevant, but with the whole mess the world is in, I think my points still stand, so I will make them again. Continue reading “Male allies don’t understand the challenges women face”

The problem with writing erotica: tangled limbs

tangled limbs
Writing erotica is a lot of fun. It’s sexy and hot and I love letting my imagination wander. It also comes with its own set of challenges though, and in this blog post I would like to take a look at one of these challenges. Continue reading “The problem with writing erotica: tangled limbs”

Monogamous sex blogger: contradiction in terms?


When I started my sex blog, I did not know many other sex bloggers. I initially started my blog to have a place to post my erotic short stories and to muse about sex in general. I didn’t even consider myself a sex blogger. It wasn’t until I started doing the Summer 100 Sex Blogger Challenge that I got to know other sex bloggers and I started to get a bit self conscious when I read their blogs. Continue reading “Monogamous sex blogger: contradiction in terms?”