I used to be quite ashamed of masturbating. I didn’t do it very often and when I did, I invariably felt guilty. A quick rub in the shower or under the covers if my husband was away was all I ever managed. That was before I became more liberated and before I started this sex blog. (more…)
Tag: #iTalkSex
Treat rape as the crime it is
A few weeks ago my bike was stolen from in front of my house. It was locked with a very good lock, but unfortunately not locked to anything. The thieves came to the house in the night, picked up my bike and left. (more…)
A week of daily orgasms: a mixture of toys and fingering
I decided to join in Tanitha Rayne’s #30DayOrgasmFun challenge where you attempt to have 30 orgasms in 30 days in the month of April. It’s just a bit of fun, no pressure, but I wanted to take it seriously. It’s time for a check in to report how I am doing so far. (more…)
I have joined in the #30DayOrgasmFun
Last year, Tabitha Rayne started the #30DayOrgasmFun as a way of boosting her mental health. You can read all about it in the blog post I linked to. I have decided to join in on the fun this year. (more…)
Arousal doesn’t have to be spontaneous
I traveled for business the past few days. As always when I travel and stay in a hotel, I took a few sex toys along. It is rare that I get time to really indulge in a nice long masturbation session, so I take the business trips as an opportunity to do just that. This time around though, when I got to my hotel on Monday night, I didn’t really feel like it. I was tired, my ears were clogged from flying with a cold and all I wanted to do was crawl under the covers and watch some telly. (more…)
Mindfulness greatly enhances the sexual experience
Life is busy. I am sure we can all agree on that. There are many things that demand our attention, time and energy. Often there is hardly enough time in the day to have sex and when we do have sex, our minds are still racing. That’s where mindfulness can come in handy. (more…)
There is no such thing as foreplay
Generally speaking my husband and I are fairly vanilla when it comes to sex. Sure, we have experimented a bit with bondage, but we often can’t bother to get out the restraints, so when we “do the deed” we often default to the missionary position. (more…)
Fantasies of being gang-banged
I consider myself quite vanilla. I have only had sex with 2 men in my life (consensual, that is), I have been with my husband for 21 years (married for almost 17) and we are both monogamous. I like it that way. I am not telling you all these things because I want a medal or anything. Far from it. NO, I am telling you this to frame what I am going to tell you next. (more…)
I want to tackle rape culture, not just sexual assault
The #MeToo movement has really taken off, sparking many discussions about sexual assault and how women are treated in general. Of course in this debate people still (deliberately) misunderstand what the #MeToo movement is about. (more…)
Women wear black to the Golden Globe Awards, but is time really up?
The Golden Globes. Women wearing black in protest against sexual harassment. Men wearing pins in solidarity reading “Time’s Up”. Great signs that the tide is finally turning, right? (more…)