A week of daily orgasms: a mixture of toys and fingering

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I decided to join in Tanitha Rayne’s #30DayOrgasmFun challenge where you attempt to have 30 orgasms in 30 days in the month of April. It’s just a bit of fun, no pressure, but I wanted to take it seriously. It’s time for a check in to report how I am doing so far. Continue reading “A week of daily orgasms: a mixture of toys and fingering”

Arousal doesn’t have to be spontaneous

I traveled for business the past few days. As always when I travel and stay in a hotel, I took a few sex toys along. It is rare that I get time to really indulge in a nice long masturbation session, so I take the business trips as an opportunity to do just that. This time around though, when I got to my hotel on Monday night, I didn’t really feel like it. I was tired, my ears were clogged from flying with a cold and all I wanted to do was crawl under the covers and watch some telly. Continue reading “Arousal doesn’t have to be spontaneous”

Mindfulness greatly enhances the sexual experience

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Life is busy. I am sure we can all agree on that. There are many things that demand our attention, time and energy. Often there is hardly enough time in the day to have sex and when we do have sex, our minds are still racing. That’s where mindfulness can come in handy. Continue reading “Mindfulness greatly enhances the sexual experience”

Fantasies of being gang-banged

I consider myself quite vanilla. I have only had sex with 2 men in my life (consensual, that is), I have been with my husband for 21 years (married for almost 17) and we are both monogamous. I like it that way. I am not telling you all these things because I want a medal or anything. Far from it. NO, I am telling you this to frame what I am going to tell you next. Continue reading “Fantasies of being gang-banged”

I want to tackle rape culture, not just sexual assault

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The #MeToo movement has really taken off, sparking many discussions about sexual assault and how women are treated in general. Of course in this debate people still (deliberately) misunderstand what the #MeToo movement is about.  Continue reading “I want to tackle rape culture, not just sexual assault”

Women wear black to the Golden Globe Awards, but is time really up?

The Golden Globes. Women wearing black in protest against sexual harassment. Men wearing pins in solidarity reading “Time’s Up”. Great signs that the tide is finally turning, right? Continue reading “Women wear black to the Golden Globe Awards, but is time really up?”

How the latest sexual harassment allegations helped me recognise my own gaslighting

Sexual harassment seems to be a hot topic these days. Allegations of sexual misconduct have been brought out against Harvey Weinstein, Roy Moore and Louis CK, to name a few, and here in the UK we have seen our own spate of sexual harassment claims against members of parliament. As a consequence, Twitter has exploded with women coming forward to tell their own – often harrowing – tales of sexual harassment, particularly under the hashtag #MeToo. Continue reading “How the latest sexual harassment allegations helped me recognise my own gaslighting”