A friend of mine has recently gotten out of her long term relationship and is wading back into the dating world. As she wants to explore her sexuality more (yay!) she has started having casual sex. We were talking about her experiences recently and she confessed that she is unable to orgasm through penetration alone. She asked me when she should disclose this to her sexual partners. (more…)
Tag: #iTalkSex
Why is libido so fickle sometimes?
I haven’t had sex in about two months. I know: shocking, right? I am a sex blogger who doesn’t have sex. There used to be a time when I would rather have died than admit I don’t really have sex. Especially since people are quick to point out that sex is super important to a marriage. (more…)
Why good sex education is important
The theme for the sixth and last round of the Summer 100 Blog Challenge is Sex Education. Sex education seems to be a hot topic, both in the UK and in the US. Sadly, the people clamouring the most about sex education are the people who want to limit what our children will learn about sex. And that is a bad trend. (more…)
Let’s not stop talking about sex
“You talk about sex as if it is something normal.”
My sister said this to me, a while ago, after we had spent an evening talking about sex. As if it is something normal. I knew what she meant, of course. In our family, when we grew up, sex wasn’t talked about. It was something you did when you were married, in order to have children, nothing else. (more…)
69 is not my magic number
The more I become sexually aware, and the more I talk about sex with other women, the more I realise there is no “acceptable standard” of sex. I know it’s a bit weird to be saying this in 2018, and at the age of 40(ish), but until I started blogging about sex about a year and a half ago, I never really talked to anyone about sex. And if you don’t talk about sex, you only have your own experience to go on. That, and books/porn, which is not a good guide. (more…)
Losing my virginity wasn’t special
I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. I was raised in a conservative Christian household and as such I was taught not to have sex before marriage. My virginity was a “gift” I should save for my husband. It would be a very special occasion for us both when I finally lost my virginity. No one ever mentioned my future husband’s virginity or even whether he would be a virgin. And sex education was, of course, pretty much non-existent.
(more…)
I love being monogamous
I’m a steady-as-you-go-gal. I don’t particularly love surprises. I don’t get excited by a chance encounter with a new partner, or new sexual experiences. The thrill of the hunt, the victory of the capture, are not for me. I am really not that adventurous. (more…)
Masturbating together: not for everyone?
Masturbation Month has come to an end and I have to say, I didn’t do too bad this time around. Sure, I didn’t masturbate every day, but I still masturbated more than I usually do, so that is a win for me. I have to say that I also traveled during this time, which I always use as a good excuse to masturbate like crazy. (more…)
I don’t like dicks
I don’t like dicks. There, I’ve said it. I always feel a bit weird about that. Many of my fellow sex bloggers write lovingly about how much they love dicks, whether it be their partner’s or just in porn (although NEVER in the form of unsolicited dick pics), but I don’t share those feelings. (more…)
Let’s talk about squirting
I just realised I haven’t really talked about squirting on my site. I used to squirt a lot and with regularity. However, in the last few months it is almost as if I had lost the ability to squirt. Although I continued to have amazing sex, squirting remained absent. (more…)