Let’s not stop talking about sex

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“You talk about sex as if it is something normal.”

My sister said this to me, a while ago, after we had spent an evening talking about sex. As if it is something normal. I knew what she meant, of course. In our family, when we grew up, sex wasn’t talked about. It was something you did when you were married, in order to have children, nothing else. Continue reading “Let’s not stop talking about sex”

69 is not my magic number

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The more I become sexually aware, and the more I talk about sex with other women, the more I realise there is no “acceptable standard” of sex. I know it’s a bit weird to be saying this in 2018, and at the age of 40(ish), but until I started blogging about sex about a year and a half ago, I never really talked to anyone about sex. And if you don’t talk about sex, you only have your own experience to go on. That, and books/porn, which is not a good guide. Continue reading “69 is not my magic number”

Losing my virginity wasn’t special

I was nineteen when I lost my virginity. I was raised in a conservative Christian household and as such I was taught not to have sex before marriage. My virginity was a “gift” I should save for my husband. It would be a very special occasion for us both when I finally lost my virginity. No one ever mentioned my future husband’s virginity or even whether he would be a virgin. And sex education was, of course, pretty much non-existent.
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Masturbating together: not for everyone?

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Masturbation Month has come to an end and I have to say, I didn’t do too bad this time around. Sure, I didn’t masturbate every day, but I still masturbated more than I usually do, so that is a win for me. I have to say that I also traveled during this time, which I always use as a good excuse to masturbate like crazy. Continue reading “Masturbating together: not for everyone?”

Does your partner know you masturbate?

I used to be quite ashamed of masturbating. I didn’t do it very often and when I did, I invariably felt guilty. A quick rub in the shower or under the covers if my husband was away was all I ever managed. That was before I became more liberated and before I started this sex blog. Continue reading “Does your partner know you masturbate?”

A week of daily orgasms: a mixture of toys and fingering

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I decided to join in Tanitha Rayne’s #30DayOrgasmFun challenge where you attempt to have 30 orgasms in 30 days in the month of April. It’s just a bit of fun, no pressure, but I wanted to take it seriously. It’s time for a check in to report how I am doing so far. Continue reading “A week of daily orgasms: a mixture of toys and fingering”